Having twins can be a challenge for many reasons. You have to have two of almost everything, but the one thing people do not usually start off with two of is bedrooms. In one bedroom, you will most likely find 2 cribs, matching outfits, and multiple bags of diapers to be shared between the babies. This solution is certainly doable when the babies are born and on into toddler hood. These sleeping arrangements could go on throughout their childhood if they are of the same sex. If the situation involves a boy and a girl, then other arrangements should be made at the right time.

Some believe the right time to separate twins is when they become toddlers and learn to distract each other throughout different times of the day; nap time, eating time, or possibly discipline. The problems that may arise because of a separation need to be considered carefully. Toddlers do not always adapt well to change and twins have been together since the womb. It is important to introduce the idea of separate bedrooms carefully and be sensitive to the needs of your children.

As the twins grow and begin to attend school, this may present the perfect time to allow them their own space. School is a completely different environment and involves being around a crowd of children with not much time to one’s self. Introducing the idea of a bedroom all your own may be welcome and encouraging. This space becomes their own to decorate, study, sleep, and be responsible for. This can help put a stop to quarrels over who did what or how one won’t quit making noise or any other normal problem that can present itself between siblings.

As with other siblings and possibly more so, twins share a special bond. They have been in cramped quarters for a long time, 9 months give or take. They are different, but the same. Parents need to tread carefully on this relationship. You can separate cribs, bedrooms, study space, but the relationship between the siblings does not need a separation. Be alert to how they feel and what they want.

Content guidance provided by Amy Hall, M.O.M (Mom of Multiples)